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February 17, 2011 / thegirlwhotooktheleap

11 Suitcases and then some

Yep.. All my material possessions are now summed up in 11 suitcases. It’s a lot of suitcases, and I wish I knew how to pack light. But I’m of those sentimental people who put so much value in things, so much that I can’t even bear to leave behind that item because so and so gave it to me, or I got it during some kind of special day. So as the result of my sentimentality, I am forced to bring 11 suitcases to America. Ideally I wish I could bring less, that way it will really feel like starting over, or starting from scratch, but whatever.. 11 suitcases it is! Luckily my family and some relatives are flying in for the wedding so it means they can bring a suitcase for me..:)

The problem really doesn’t lie with the packing.. I’ve done this a lot, and I am a pretty good packer, a trait I got from my mom. The problem lies with unpacking. This is the hard part, the tiring part, and the part that makes me soooo lazy. I can only hope that Tim’s closet will have enough space for my stuff.

Another problem I have is that I did not make an inventory, so I cannot for the life of me remember where each item is anymore. I guess each suitcase will hold a surprise when I open it, like “Ohmigosh, there you are!” or “Why on Earth did I bring this waste of space?” Lol.. It will be fun though, and unpacking and organizing will probably keep me busy πŸ™‚


My last few days in Manila are quite booked..

Tonight I plan on having dinner with some college friends.

Tomorrow I have lunch with my CalCarrie friends, and in the evening the Afzelius clan is throwing a tiny bridal/farewell shower for me. I will also meet up with JL for my rehearsal dinner dress πŸ™‚ Speaking of rehearsal dinners, Tim and I have decided to do away with the traditional formal sit-down rehearsal dinner, and have a small intimate pizza party instead, It will be fun, casual and informal, taking away the awkwardness and making it more light-hearted πŸ™‚ At the same time, its cheaper too. I think it’s a splendid idea, don’t you?

On Saturday mom and I are planning on doing some last-minute shopping in Greenhills.


Gosh, its really happening isn’t it?


I appreciate all the well-wishes, people wishing me luck, saying how brave I am, or saying how happy they are for me. What I don’t appreciate though are the unsolicited and pretty much unwarranted advice/comments that some people give. I know they mean well, but it gets old, and it gets old real fast.

You’re too young!

Okay, I’m 23, will be 24 this April, and yes I am quite young. But I am also not 19. I am old enough to know what I have gotten myself into, and old enough to know the consequences. Do you really think that after going through this whole grueling fiancee visa process that Tim and I have never thought about this? This is all we think about. We didn’t rush into this, in fact, we spent an entire year working for this. Also, doesn’t anyone celebrate the fact that a couple is choosing to get married the traditional way.. falling in love, building our lives together and then starting a family? Besides, we have no loans to worry about, we’re both done with college, and we’re still not jaded about life so this is as good a time as any, don’t you think? And it’s not like we don’t have plans.. No we won’t have babies right away, we will go to graduate school, we will work, we just want to do it together and not alone.. Besides its really hard to maintain a relationship when you live in different continents and timezones, just saying..

You’re leaving your family behind!

Yes, I know that and I am not happy about it, okay? Please stop rubbing it in my face. The fact of the matter is that I fell in love with someone who doesn’t live in the Philippines, what can I do? It doesn’t mean its not breaking my heart, in fact I can’t sleep because of it. Believe me no one else in this world is closer to their parents the way I am to mine. The thought of being so far away from them tears my heart into pieces. Please know that if I had a choice, if I had a way to somehow make Tim move here instead, I would do that. The fact of the matter is that Tim isn’t able to leave until his military contract expires, and when it does, we will be on the next plane back to Shanghai or wherever in Asia we find work.

You need to enjoy your childhood/youth!

How? By partying? Going out? Dating around? Drinking? That’s not fun for me. It never was. I was never that kind of girl. I actually like being a boring girl, and staying home with Timmy or my family. My idea of fun would be renting a dvd, reading a book. having coffee with my friends.. so yeah, I think I’ll pass on the other stuff πŸ™‚

20 years from now you’ll look back in your life and regret getting married that early..

Really? Does anyone really know what will happen 20 years from now? For all I know, 20 years from now I’ll look back and be happy that I didn’t listen to naysayers and instead I listened to my heart. I don’t want to be cynical, I don’t want to be afraid. I want to take risks and make bold choices, I want to experience and live life, I already did that once when I moved to China, this is just another chapter, a new venture.



I know there are people who can relate to what I’ve said..



Okay enough ranting.. we all make life-changing decisions, this is mine. It was our choice to make and I know we made the right one πŸ™‚


And my last weird thought for the day.. someone just called Tim’s cell asking if he was the business owner of “My Slice of American Pie” and they offered to advertise my blog… so weird.. and how they got the number is beyond me..

My blog has been up and running for over a week now, and I’ve gotten over a thousand views so that’s not too shabby! Thank you to those who’ve taken the time to read my blog, and hope you guys can leave more comments! πŸ™‚


Ciao! πŸ™‚



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  1. Ana / Feb 17 2011 1:07 am

    I’m so very happy for you Steph! I’ve been reading your past entries and it’s super wonderful to know how strong, happy and very in love you are πŸ™‚ Congratulations to you and your future husband! I wish you all the love and happiness in the world! πŸ™‚

    • thegirlwhotooktheleap / Feb 17 2011 1:08 am

      Ana! You’re in wordpress too! Cool! You’re like my 2nd friend here haha πŸ™‚ How are you??

      And thanks so much!!! πŸ˜€ I really appreciate it πŸ™‚

      • Ana / Feb 17 2011 1:24 am

        LOL I’m doing okay! Ninja-blogging while at work :)) I thought I’d drop by and leave a comment πŸ™‚

        It’s sad that you’d be leaving, but at least you can still share your thoughts and connect to everyone else through your blog. So still, yay! πŸ™‚ Keep writing πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚

      • thegirlwhotooktheleap / Feb 17 2011 1:25 am

        Hahaha what do you do now? blogging feels therapeutic πŸ™‚
        and thanks, you too.. πŸ™‚

  2. Crystal / Feb 17 2011 2:06 am

    Hey just stopping by to say I love reading your blog πŸ™‚ . I know all about the naysayers! Just turn a deaf ear to them. We only have one life to live, this is not something that was decided hastily so just go for it diba? πŸ™‚ Whatever happens, happens. I know you’ll both work hard to make it work. What matters most is that it feels right. I wish you all the best. Good luck, just a few more days!

    • thegirlwhotooktheleap / Feb 17 2011 4:09 am

      Exactly, you are sooo right, I knew you’d understand!! πŸ˜›

      Thanks dear! Although I think I have to leave a day later.. haha Tuesday na instead of Mon, kasi full flight sa Mon πŸ™‚ (I have a free ticket!) πŸ˜›

  3. Lucy W / Feb 17 2011 3:45 am

    Wow Steph! Goodluck on your move! We’re somewhat in the same situation πŸ™‚ My darling lives in Washington state and I’ll be going over soon – after being apart for almost 6 months. Boo!!! We’re in a special club of long distance lovers haha.

    Anyway, 11 suitcases is pretty impressive, I’ve been slowly trying to get rid of stuff for past few weeks and am limiting myself to 4. haha

    All the best!

    • thegirlwhotooktheleap / Feb 17 2011 4:12 am

      I know right!!! 11 is a lot.. well two are just wedding stuff.. and I suppose 1 is just bags.. 1 is all shoes.. haha and I have a ton of jackets and clothes.. yeah.. so in a couple of years when you see me in Hoarders you can look back at this post and know that I had it coming.. lol πŸ™‚

      Ahhh you are moving to the US as well??? That’s so cool, maybe I’ll bump into you! And LDRs suck so I’m glad you’ll be together soon.. I saw your sale, you sold awesome stuff I wish I could’ve gotten them πŸ™‚

  4. timmy / Feb 17 2011 9:25 am

    baby im gonna be honest i dont know if im gonna be able to fit 11 suitcases in my room, let alone my closet!! but we’re gonna try babycakes πŸ™‚ this is why me and my brother switched rooms now we got the big walk in closet!!! baby when you get here you are gonna be treated like a princess, everybody is just gonna love you πŸ™‚ and all these negative nancys need to shut their yaps!! we’re gonna be fine baby…please dont worry about a thing angel…

  5. Kathy / Feb 18 2011 6:38 pm

    “No we won’t have babies right away, we will go to graduate school, we will work, we just want to do it together and not alone.. ”

    This is the best line stef. I hope you’ll have a good time. And yes, you dont have to be too old to get married. Getting married is choosing to live your dreams with someone. It doesn’t have to be too complicated (the process can be though, like in your case.)

    Wishing you well,

    • thegirlwhotooktheleap / Feb 18 2011 7:11 pm

      Thank you Kathy! πŸ™‚ I really appreciate it! Haven’t seen you for a while now, I hope all is well, and wishing you the best too πŸ™‚

  6. avery / Mar 11 2011 8:41 am

    i really enjoy reading your blogs! i can pretty much relate on some of your thoughts..:) im stuck here in the Philippines cos i had a J1 visa which means i can’t go back to the US for 2 sucks cos i can’t be with my saddd. anyhow im sooo happy for you!goodluck in everything=)

    • thegirlwhotooktheleap / Mar 11 2011 8:47 am

      Thank you! I didn’t know that about j1 visas, wow.. when can you return or file k1? goodluck and hope you can be together soon, i know the wait sucks big time!

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